Geekmatch

Before I talk to anyone (yes, I will be talking to you), these are the five questions I want you to answer. Hints: if I don’t ask why, I don’t want to know why — yet.  Also, some questions are deliberately vague. Run with those.

1. Where have you traveled?
2. Cats or dogs?
3. What do you regret?
4. What book do you hate?
5. In a paragraph (hopefully longer and better written than mine below), describe where you will be in a year.

Because fair is fair, here are my answers:

1. All over the freaking US. I have never been to Europe. This is a tragedy for me (but not Europe).
2. Dogs.
3. Majoring in history instead of chemistry (my minor).
4. Lord Foul’s Bane.
5. We’ll be in a larger apartment, with a kid attending kindergarten. I’ll still be writing, perhaps practicing law again, and hopefully still in Portland.

Let me tell you what I know about dating.

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That covers it.  I know nothing about dating. Zero. Zilch. I never dated (at least, nothing I would admit to). I met my best friend at 18, married him a year later, and we’re approaching our 19th wedding anniversary. I have opinions about dating and what it ought to be, but I won’t even pretend to know what it’s like. (From what I hear, it sounds expensive and overrated.)

What I do know are people. I’m good at reading people and figuring out their motivations. I’m good at knowing who will get along with whom. I like to find the best aspects of people and share them with others. As a result of a childhood that was pretty damned odd, I can say that even if I hadn’t been born with these skills, I’ve honed them since early childhood. (This isn’t all about me, so I’ll leave it at that.) I’ve had some success in matchmaking, and it’s something I really love doing.

The Geekmatch philosophy is that there is no one person out there that will make you happy. (And I’d also add that a relationship isn’t going to make you happy; it will just make you less lonely.)  The idea is to meet people with common interests, informally and without pressure, to see if a friendship — or more — can take root.  You take it from there.